May Diaries 4: Thoughts on Tiktok Mom asking for $5 Donations for redoing the backyard

Okay- so I don’t think this is a really big issue going on in the world… but it’s interesting to talk about it and I guess I can.

I don’t think the woman has the video up anymore and you can google who the woman posting this is if you want but I’m not going to link the video or give the name because I’m not sure that’s what this woman wants and… I’m not here to expose this person or anything. She posted something online- people had opinions on it and that’s fine… you can google it if you want more information.

Anyway the video in question is a mom explaining that she is having a small birthday party for her daughter who is turning 1 because she’s not really going to remember it and that’s fine… but she said she’s having it kind of early in the morning- that way it’s not interrupting her guests full day… which she thinks “yeah it’s early but it’s one day- they can wake up early.” That might not be an exact quote but that was the attitude- it’s been a while since I’ve watched the video. She also said she’s not really going to have any food or anything, she doesn’t want to spend a lot of money on the party, she mentioned she had a $64 headband on but she didn’t want to spend money on the party… this is where I think maybe she shouldn’t have said that online because that just sounds like she doesn’t want to spend money on her guests at all… which is kind of bad.

And the big controversy of the thing is that she said not to bring gifts- if everyone wanted to bring a gift- just bring $5 instead to go to the family redoing the backyard. So… that’s fine… whatever she wants to do with the money and a 1-year old doesn’t need a lot of things… but just the fact that she said she’s not really going to spend money on the party- but she wanted $5 to re-do the backyard just seems cheap to me.

So I don’t know this woman at all, I don’t follow her and I don’t know who she’s inviting to the party… but my guess is she knows people will give her more than $5. I work retail and whenever we have a collection to get gifts for someone for Christmas or if there’s a milestone or something- no one wants to feel cheap so usually everyone that gives gives $20 at least… especially if everyone knows she’s redoing the backyard- they’ll probably give a little more… so yeah. She’s not doing anything special, not doing a lot and she just wants something for herself.

I’m sure it’s not exactly that, I’m sure it’s fine and we should just normalize these “fiver” parties where people are just asking for $5 for something… but I don’t think I’d be friends with this woman. Which is fine she probably doesn’t want to be friends with me anyway but… those are just my thoughts on this. M

This is a longer diary than I was expecting and I don’t have kids or a house so take my thoughts with a grain of salt, have whatever kinds of parties that you want as long as they’re not dangerous… but these are my thoughts on it.

See ya later!

-Shannon